I’ve never been so busy in my life. It can be a disease… the Busy Disease.
We recently experienced major water damage in our home causing a demolished kitchen and a displaced family. With two littles, who we all know crave and require structure, our family has been in complete disarray.
Silver lining, new kitchen and flooring throughout the home. Boom…. but in the meantime I’ve never been busier. With countless meetings with contractors, communicating with the insurance company (and all their counterparts), finding a furnished rental home in the midst of the busiest time of year for Scottsdale tourists, moving and then moving again. It’s been overwhelming.
When one is without a home along with so many unknowns the path of least resistance is to worry and just keep busy to try and keep everything together.
Performing all the mommy duties while fulfilling the role of a certified contractor of our home and crazy lives, I’m on the brink of a breakdown… a panic attack. My relationships have suffered. My husband and I are at our wits end with the situation and well each other.
Sometimes the pressure is just too much. Do you feel me?
I know these are first world problems… and my journey has guided me here to teach me an invaluable lesson on how and why to STOP being so busy!
I hear and see that mommy lives just get busier as the kids grow older… how is that possible???!!!
This situation has opened my eyes to being immersed in feeling busy, tired, overwhelmed, and absolutely exhausted. It’s not fun… it’s exhausting.
Some of us identify a direct correlation between how busy we are as to how successful we are. How can we truly embrace the enjoy the fruits of our labour when we continue to just being labourous!
… How do we stop being so busy? All of the time.
Well to start… here are a few things I have intended and implemented daily to help me cope with the busyness of life:
- Breathe slowly and controlled – implement yoga or a walk outside. Slow down and breathe in the life around you. This simple technique can be life or moment changing.
- Know when to say no and stop over-committing ourselves – listen to that gut feeling when you are committing yourself to something. Birthday parties, events, even playdates! We so much want our kids to be happy but if we are overwhelmed and too busy… nobody’s happy.
- Acknowledge that you are exactly where you are supposed to be… and nothing needs to be done to make it better.
- eEvaluate the state of your heart
- haHve slow conversations
- Understand that we are human beings not human doings
- Connect with others – tell them about the state of your heart and inquire about the state of their heart.
Life isn’t about how much we do or accomplish but how much we love… and how deeply we connect with others. Stop the Busy Disease in it’s tracks!
Read this amazing article The Disease of Being Busy for a new perspective on well… being busy. It presented itself in perfect timing. Maybe you need it too?
THE DISEASE OF BEING BUSY
I saw a dear friend a few days ago. I stopped by to ask her how she was doing, how her family was. She looked up, voice lowered, and just whimpered: “I’m so busy… I am so busy… have so much going on.”
Almost immediately after, I ran into another friend and asked him how he was. Again, same tone, same response: “I’m just so busy… got so much to do.”
The tone was exacerbated, tired, even overwhelmed.
And it’s not just adults. When we moved to North Carolina about ten years ago, we were thrilled to be moving to a city with a great school system. We found a diverse neighborhood, filled with families. Everything felt good, felt right.
After we settled in, we went to one of the friendly neighbors, asking if their daughter and our daughter could get together and play. The mother, a really lovely person, reached for her phone and pulled out the calendar function. She scrolled… and scrolled… and scrolled. She finally said: “She has a 45-minute opening two and half weeks from now. The rest of the time it’s gymnastics, piano, and voice lessons. She’s just…. so busy.”
Horribly destructive habits start early, really early.
How did we end up living like this? Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we do this to our children? When did we forget that we are human beings, not human doings?
Are you busy? How do you slowdown? Please share!
Live Hippily… and how is the state of your heart today?